Boy Meets Girl

 

By Wilson Tai

 

Film 80B UCSC Fall ‘01

Instructor: Gloria Monti

Teaching Assistant: Ali Ebrahimzadeh

11/26/01

 

 


          Rob Reiner’s, When Harry Met Sally…(1989) confronts the differences between the sexes and speaks about gender roles and issues that were previously never talked about on the big screen. When Harry Met Sally…is a significant eighties film because it was the first to look into sex and friendship between the sexes. There are plenty of reasons as to why this film was such a widespread success. Nora Ephron wrote the screenplay and her dialogue represented the way people ideally would have liked to be able to talk, but couldn’t. The screenplay fulfilled a void in film in the late eighties – confronting oneself, the opposite sex, and how to understand the differences in love and friendship. It was also the time when STD’s and AIDS came into the mainstream so the themes of sex and intimacy interested audiences in 1989.

          The film’s story was something both sexes could relate to: Harry Burns (Billy Crystal) and Sally Albright (Meg Ryan) both wanted a friend of the opposite sex. However, they are confronted with the problem: "Can a man and a woman be friends, without sex getting in the way?"

Harry: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not!
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you're saying that a man can be a friend with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: I guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

 

Sally believes in friendship but Harry doesn’t - thus the persistent conflict in gender relations. The film has a standard three-act structure. In act one, Harry declares that men and women cannot be friends because sex gets in the way. Next, in act two, Harry and Sally become friends. Lastly, in act three, having slept together and tainting their friendship, the couple comes back together as friends in love. While traditional romantic films rely on the concept of love at first sight or instantaneous passion, When Harry Met Sally... takes its time in exploring the tediously long and comical process by which two people come together. Another theme of the film is that each case of romance is different; this is signified by the use of short "interview" sequences scattered through the film in which elderly couples tell their own version of love. This adds optimism to the film and also an authenticity to the predicament. This is a case of signifieds constructing signifiers. The content versus the film’s look arranges the story about Harry and Sally into a larger context - the stories are all unique, but the end product of spending the rest of your life with someone you love has universal appeal.

Gender relationships and gender conflicts in When Harry Met Sally… are the major signified themes. The signifiers in the film suggest common stereotypes of the eighties and construct the content of the film. The opening credits of the Manhattan cityscape, jazzy soundtrack, and most importantly, the lush New York landscape promote the representation to a yuppie audience. The setting is in urban Eastern America in the 1970s-1980s period, in a time and place where young urban professional women and men were struggling with gender roles, marital issues, careers, and friendships. The storyline shows a great deal of attention to composition, color, pacing, and detail. This is important because the director uses several different slices of time and location.

The film’s upper-class signifiers further include that Harry and Sally graduated from the University of Chicago. Both find New York City careers. She becomes a journalist, and he, a political consultant. Looking at the early eighties image of Sally, one cannot help but think of Melanie Griffith’s character in Working Girl. Both share the blond knockout look with the heavy makeup, bright eyes, and curly volume hair. The visual codes of Sally’s fashion wear showcase the times and also her character development. The designer Armani felt hat, khakis and long socks represent the late seventies to early eighties. Later, the briefcase and jacket reveals the professional Yuppie stylized ideal of 1982. Next, the contemporary and more casual look was part of the late eighties. Sally’s soft-curl hair was modeled after the Farah Fawcett look from Charlie's Angels.

There are also distinctive gender relations between same sexes that are noteworthy. Harry consoles about women in his best male friend while at a football game and again, at a batting range. Sally consoles about men in her best friend while eating a 5-star lunch and drinking champagne. There are also signified inaccuracies, specifically in the sex life of Harry. He jumps woman to woman and it doesn’t concern himself or more expectantly, Sally. The unrealistic part of the film contents is the characteristically Hollywood lack of coverage about the fact that AIDS and other STDs were a very real part of the sexual promiscuity in the eighties. In a time when AIDS was headline news, promiscuous sex should have been an issue.

In one scene, Sally, distressed at learning that her previous boyfriend is getting married, calls Harry over and breaks down in Harry's arms. Harry underplays the moment and is unmoved by the fragility of Sally, even as she is completely hysterical. This satisfies the stereotypical level-minded man versus the unstable woman. He is a shoulder to lean on out of necessity, not by choice. They make out, kiss, and embrace. The frame cuts to the post-sex moment where sex has changed everything. The scene between Harry and Sally after they sleep together is awkward and difficult. The mise-en-scene captures the moment after sex, framing the couple in bed. Zoomed in, the camera frames Sally’s cheek-to-cheek grin, rosy and satisfied complexion, and overall ecstasy as she lies next to a naked Harry in bed. Has sex proved they belong together? The camera pans from her happiness to his anxiety and fear – exposed in the contrasting horrified expression on the face of Harry. Harry is dismayed because he has been put into a position where he might be forced or at least expected to let go of his independence. Sally is beaming with joy because the distant friendship without sex has blossomed into a close relationship with sex, or has it? In the next cut, Harry wakes up in the morning and uses the excuse of work as a means of a quick escape while Sally is left alone in bed. This scene marks the contrast between two individuals quarreling about sex versus the meaning of sex. In other words, Sally wants intimacy and Harry wants independence. The film has a powerful message about the role of sex, how it can be toyed with and essentially minimized, as Harry has done most of his life, or it can become the crossroad that either helps to hold a relationship together or tear it apart.

          When Harry Met Sally… established the benchmark for romantic date films and inspired countless copycats. Prior to this film, dozens of years had passed since the adult romantic comedy was in style (primarily because of poor scripts and a lack of chemistry between leads), and it’s all because When Harry Met Sally… created the trend. Due in large part to the success of the movie, the film industry was forever changed and romantic comedies became high profile (such as 1990’s Pretty Woman). The popularity crossed over to other forms of media such as books: Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, which was a hugely popular book published in 1992. The most famous line of dialogue (not counting Sally's fake orgasm), "Men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way," became a regular topic of talk show discussions, magazine articles, and daily conversations during the late eighties. The film has since then become the cultural reference point for romantic comedies and conflicts between the sexes.

 

Wilson Tai, Copyright ã 2001